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AWARENESS

12 March 2017 - 6:23pm

Channelled by Lisa Virtue

Into your heart, feel the presence of the Divine within.  Know that you are one with the eternal.  This comes oft times in waves, waves of peace, of balance, or of blessed joy.  Feel the waves wash through you… an internal, eternal voice, speaking to you in a manner felt by your essence, by your being.

Know that God communes with you daily, eternally.  You are not one without such a God.  For the God we speak of here is simply the Divine presence of us all, one being in divided awareness.

Let your own awareness reside for a time within the peaceful still between thoughts.  Recognize that while this may seem a fleeting place, it does exist.  There is existence when no thoughts are present.  What this peace, this stillness represents is the non-creational aspect of self, the part of self that is released to awareness.

Find this place and you reach the eternity of self, of all.  In the still you find release of attachment, of will, of dominance in you world.  Equanimity.  You find your grace.  It is here where our natural self is best perceived.  It is here you are no longer bound by the frenetic, chaotic, dream world in which you have found your attention most of the time.  From here, expansion is possible.  From here you grow.  Grow in awareness of self, of creation, of what is and yet, what truly is not.

Life is a mystery to many… the purpose of each soul, the striving for truth, for rightness, for balance, to become whole.  Yet what if you were revealed as the creator of all?  How your limited awareness stems from the desire of the Whole for diversity?  For knowledge, understanding and collective experiencing of what is possible, what can be?

Have you imagined yourself as the inventor of all things?  Yet in a sense it is so.  Allow your awareness now to rest on an idea, the idea of all being aware and then choosing bliss.  Choosing sentience of form.  Meaning the thought creations project no longer a sense of discontinuity, but an awareness of conscious, sentient, Divine intelligence.  Yet more than intelligence, heart.  Love.  Peacefulness.  What if awareness was only the mechanism by which you revealed yourself, your true nature, to you?  Could you fathom the depths that this cosmic, Divine intelligence could go to show you the vastness of your own being, magnificence and pure divinity?

You are nothing less than “a child of God”, for it is only a separation of focus that brings you into a sense of being different than “The One”.

Trust now in the instinct, the Divine within you that leads you into your stillness, into your peace, and hold not the thought of separateness as prominent.  It is not.   Wholeness is what is.  Allow your interludes of stillness between thoughts to anchor you in the knowing of your essence.  Be at one in your stillness dear Ones.  For we are all experiencing together, as one, through eternity.

With all the love that exists, as part of you, delivered to you, that you many know and feel You,

Consciousness.

Lisa Virtue is a channel and healer who aids the transformation of souls into their own Divine-self awareness.  Accomplished through channellings, energy work and deep inner revealing, she facilitates your own self-awareness beyond the scope of day-to-day illusory challenges.

For her guidance or facilitation, please call

613-296-4271 or email Lisa@LisaVirtue.com    

www.LisaVirtue.com

Energize Your Life with Positive Thinking

11 March 2017 - 12:10am

When you develop a truly positive mindset, you set yourself up for a happier and more fulfilling life. Living at a stressful and hectic pace tends to block joy and happiness, a more joyful existence is certain to be a welcome change!

It might take a wee bit of practice to change your negative thought patterns into positive ideas that serve you better, but you CAN do it!

Here are some strategies to invigorate your life:

Tell yourself you can do it. Sometimes, a simple thought that you repeat over and over again can get you through a tough or challenging experience. “I can do it, I can do it, I can do it” is a great mantra to keep you striving for the excellence you desire.

Write what’s good about you. Even though it may feel a bit strange to do it, get a pen and paper and start listing your positive attributes. Do some bragging about yourself.

Acknowledge that you will do something. Rather than being disappointed about something you didn’t do well, vow you’ll work to achieve it in the future. Use the words, “I am.”

Notice that you’re not saying, “I’m going to try” or “I might give it a go.” You’re stating, “I am” following through. It’s positive and affirmative. Practice thinking and speaking in these terms. The more definitive you can be, the more likely your life will advance in positive ways.

Have a sense of humour. If you ordered a new bed and it doesn’t fit in the room when the delivery guys bring it, try to laugh about it. Recognize it’s not an unsolvable issue—you can return the bed and shop for another one. Smile and say that tomorrow is another day to get it right.

Tell yourself you can handle it if something doesn’t work out. Being positive means you’ll land on your feet, regardless of what happens. You’ll get through it. When you truly know this and live life like you believe it, you’ll be one of the most positive people alive.

When you begin to re-focus your life toward positivity, you’ll discover a passion for life you’ve never before experienced. You’ll bring vim and vigor to your life each day through practicing these positive methods and mantras.

Moira Hutchison

Mindfulness Coach, Tarot Card Reader & Energy Healer

613.432.1239

www.WellnessWithMoira.com

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Permission to Love

10 March 2017 - 11:45pm

by Amâeil (Melinda Urban RIHR)
Healing with Divine heart to awaken the deep truth within.

The heart of our being is rooted in love. Without love we have no genuine interaction, no commitment to each other, and no reference to our Spirit. Without love of self and others we do not evolve. This is how much it matters to every organism on Earth right now.

We often hear people misuse “love” when they mean conditional acceptance, expectation, lust, neediness, control, or abuse. True love never diminishes us.

True love is a purity of consciousness. It embraces the totality of understanding of what it means to be Divine. It holds us steady in our inner knowing, awakens us to our vastness, and welcomes our unity.

To be love: Building a loving relationship with ourselves is our first healing priority. In self-love we permit ourselves to flow with peace no matter what is transpiring. There is no condition that can deny this: nothing that was done by us or done to us can change this. Our ego cannot keep us in our pain when we love ourselves through it.

To be loved: To accept true love from others is also self-love. We don’t have to minimize or explain ourselves, nor accomplish or do anything in order to receive it. We do not have to prove ourselves – we are already valuable.

To love: When a full heart for ourselves overflows then we love others. We carry the blessings of the Spirits of Christ to others as an effortless extension of our Highest Self. Freely sharing love sustains us.

Loving in 2017: Love is our highest expression of God. Nobody needs to give us permission to love. Yet, because so much of our collective history has dampened and darkened our hearts, I do suggest that we consciously give this permission to ourselves now – declare it, so that we can all truly live in love!

Copyright 2017 Amâeil (Melinda Urban)
www.MelindaUrban.com All Rights Reserved.

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PATHWORK: Transitioning from Isolation to Union

10 March 2017 - 11:42pm

In these challenging and chaotic times, it is easy to find ourselves struggling with feelings of confusion, fear, helplessness and even despair, as we observe world events from a predominantly dualistic perspective.  But the Pathwork lectures remind us of a bigger vision of our purpose in these transformational times.  Lecture 75: The Great Transition in Human Development tells us that there are two basic currents in the universe, the love force (unity) and the egocentric principle (dualistic) by which most human beings still live and that the transition from self-centered isolation to the state of union with “all that is” is the most essential step on our spiritual path. However, we tend to harbour a belief that only as a separate, unique individual can we have dignity and a chance for happiness.  In our separateness, we build walls made up of fear-based misconceptions, about others and ourselves, in an effort to protect ourselves.

As we move along the path to psychological and spiritual maturity, examining our basic faults of self-will, pride, and fear and how these manifest in false beliefs and misconceptions, we gain understanding and strength about our own lives and life in general. At some point, we reach a time for a new evaluation from an ethical and spiritual viewpoint.

Recognizing that we are one with all of creation frees us from the inner prisons we build, opening the door to true happiness and dignity.  The first tentative steps in the transition from separateness to a state of love are the cultivation of self-knowledge and self-acceptance.  Through exploration, meditation and mutual support, we can experience moving from isolation to union within ourselves and between one another, communities, and countries.

At the next monthly Pathwork Open Lecture on Wednesday March 8, we will dive into this rich topic and discover practical ways to shift from isolation to union.

When: Wednesday, March 8, 2017

7-9 pm

Where: Saint Paul University

233 Main Street

(follow the signs to the room). 

All are welcome.

There is a suggested donation of

$15 for non-members; $5 for members.

The Pathwork Lectures are available

for free download from

www.pathwork.org

For more information, contact Pathwork Helper Jean: jmillar21@gmail.com or

613-829-1254.

The presenters, Mary Gordon and Beverly Chen, are long time Pathworkers.

The Merchant and the Diamond

10 March 2017 - 11:37pm

Ian Prattis

There was a merchant who lived in a far-away land. He was very wealthy and built a trading empire that brought him great riches, yet in the midst of all his wealth and fame he felt a lack, that there was something he did not have. One night he had a dream and remembered it very clearly. He dreamed there was a monk sitting under a tree at the forest’s edge, and that this monk had something special to give to him. He was not accustomed to dreaming, so he felt this dream held a special portent. At sunrise the next day he left his house and walked to the edge of the town where he lived. He saw the monk, just as in his dream, wearing a saffron robe, sitting quietly under the shade of a tree at the edge of the forest. He looked so peaceful. As the merchant approached, the monk opened his eyes and smiled gently to him. The merchant stopped, bowing respectfully, and said:

“Dear monk, I had a dream about you last night, that you would be sitting here on the edge of the forest and that you had something for me. What is it that you have for me?” The monk paused for a moment then slowly reached into his canvas bag. He brought out a huge diamond as big as a man’s fist. It sparkled and shone in the sunlight, dazzling the eyes and senses of the merchant. It was the most beautiful and valuable diamond the merchant had ever seen. The monk said, “Have you come for this?”

The merchant without hesitating replied, “Oh yes, thank you so much, this is wonderful. I have always wanted to possess such a magnificent diamond.” He wrapped the diamond inside his jacket and returned home. Once there he placed the diamond in his front room. He closed the shutters and locked the doors to his house and stayed with the diamond, totally mesmerized and entranced by its beauty and purity. He did not go to work that day, nor did he eat or drink. He thought that this gift was the missing piece of his life and he wanted to bask in the glory of it. When he went to sleep that night, he placed the diamond on a small pedestal by his bedside, so that he could have it close by. Yet he could not sleep. He felt a strange disturbance within himself that he did not understand. He tossed and turned, not knowing what to do about the growing restlessness. Just before sunrise he rose, got dressed and carefully wrapped the diamond in a cloth, before setting off once more for the edge of the forest.

The monk was sitting in the same place, deep in meditation. The peace that emanated from him calmed the restlessness that so disturbed the merchant. On hearing the merchant’s footsteps come closer and then stop before him, the monk opened his eyes and once more smiled very gently to the merchant. “Good morning my friend,” he said. “Are you not happy with the diamond?”

The merchant bowed and placed the diamond at the feet of the monk and said, “Good monk, it is not the diamond that I want. I would like to have the heart that can give away such a diamond.”

The monk very quietly stood up and bowed to the merchant, “Good sir, as that is your wish, I will teach you to meditate.”

Ian Prattis is Zen teacher at Pine Gate Mindfulness Community in the west end of Ottawa. Silent meditation every Thursday 7.00pm – 8.00pm, Mindfulness Gathering every First Saturday of the month. Latest book

http://ianprattis.com/NewPlanet.html

Horoscope for March 2017

10 March 2017 - 10:37pm

 

Tip of the MonthMoon, Mars, Venus and Uranus in Aries now are together activating a pioneering impulse. Venus Retrograde adds complexity to the mix. Sun enters Aries on March 20th marking the first day of spring. As each planet in Aries approaches Uranus, they will contribute to activating the already charged T-Square with Pluto at the apex, signifying big changes at governmental and other major societal levels. Saturn hovering at the Galactic Center throughout March and April is a call for unity and ethical principles and conduct.

 

Aries (Mar. 21-Apr. 19): Many activations of your pioneering spirit suggest spring’s early arrival. The impact will be measurable and others will see the changes in you too. Relationship opportunities will abound. Your focus will become increasingly practical.

Taurus (Apr. 20-May 20): Discerning between dreams and fantasies, needs and wants, is a lingering theme. Something of a soul-searching process is implied, continuing all spring. Still, you will be happy to get your hands dirty in practical projects, soon.

Gemini (May 21-June 20): A rebellious impulse that began in February will escalate in March. It could manifest as an early spring cleaning purge. Making way for more practical projects is a core motivation. You also yearn to learn a few new tricks.

Cancer (June 21-July 22):  Your sights are set on the bigger picture. A long-term vision beckons. Drawing on existing skills and past experiences feels necessary. Yet you are ready to try something new. Expect a push for reform by mid-March.

Leo (July 23-Aug. 22): Seeing through illusions and identifying what is real and reliable is underway. You want to feel freer. Financial interests and concerns are featured. Many creative expressions are budding. This trend will increase. Anticipate a definite learning curve.

Virgo (Aug. 23-Sep. 22): Taking initiatives to increase your social outreach, continues. You yearn for more intimate and/or responsive connections. Seeing through blind spots is the sober side. Aim for a blend of creativity and practicality.

Libra (Sep. 23-Oct. 22): Your focus has turned to matters of health. The categories could range from lifestyle rhythms to eating habits to business practices…. Social interactions are sparking, for better or worse. You want to feel accepted and embraced.

Scorpio (Oct. 23-Nov. 21): Waves of creative inspiration are flowing your way. You would like to make a difference and have a positive impact. Making extra efforts feels necessary and circumstances are pushing. You are open to suggestions, but reserve considerable creative license.

Sagittarius (Nov. 22-Dec. 21): Although you are happy to continue to cozy in close to home, you are excited by the early scent of spring. Your mood is playful and punchy. You could probably use a boost of confidence, however, which may take a little longer to manifest.

Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19): Much is stirring within. This could refer to your home environment. Renovations and overhauls of some kind are likely. Your imagination wheels are turning. You need new leads and inspiration too. Take the economical route.

Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 18): Change is in the air and on the ground. You are hearing spring’s early call. Ideas are beginning to flow. The momentum will build steadily. You may have to contend with feeling scattered or spread too thin. Avoid over analysis, stay busy, be productive.

Pisces (Feb. 19-Mar. 20): Inspirations to take new initiatives are increasing daily. Your ambitions are certain, but your drive, motivation, and focus could be wavering. The momentum should steady by mid-March. Be open to extra support early on.

EMOTIONAL GENIUS: The Greening of Consciousness

8 March 2017 - 2:14pm

Many cultures and persons extol the importance of a high intelligence quotient (IQ).  Very little focus or attention is directed to the equally important quality of emotional quotient (EQ).  A person who has a very high ability to access, “juggle”, and appropriately articulate the array of emotions that present themselves continuously is truly an “emotional genius”.  This person has a very high EQ.  “E-motions” are the GPS of our Psyche.  They are the navigating compass that guides us in how to motivate ourselves and move forward.  After much trial and error and with increasing wisdom, we learn how to interpret our emotions in order to direct our path towards our true Self.

There are eight basic emotions.  Four of them are the so-called “good” emotions and they are: love, joy, curiosity and surprise.  The other four are the so-called “bad” emotions and they are: anger, fear, sadness and disgust.  They are neither “positive” nor “negative”.  They are all necessary for a balanced, whole life. Almost all of the other emotions are a blend of these basic building blocks.  For example, melancholy is a mixture of joy and sadness.

According to Greek mythology, Dionysus had three births: his first was to his earth mother, Semele; his second to his father, the god, Zeus; and his third to his maternal grandmother, Urea.  Urea was the daughter of Gaia, the Earth Mother.  This third birth was meant to depict that Dionysus was connected to the whole cosmos, as well as to the physical and mental realms.  His emotional interactions were not merely limited to his daily thoughts, feelings and achievements.  He had a “green consciousness” because he was “environ-mentally” connected to the whole Greek cosmic Psyche via his maternal ancestry.    

René Descartes famously said that we are a thinking animal. He was correct as far as he went.  It is also true that we can do what I call, “clearing thinking”.  In my hypnotherapy practice, I teach people how to temporarily clear their minds of all thoughts in a safe surrounding. Basically, we turn off the sympathetic nervous system.  We rely only on the “vagus” nervous system (the parasympathetic nervous system).  In this totally open and fully alert state, thinking is totally unnecessary!  A person in this state is completely open to suggestion and/or auto-suggestion.   

This article was written by:Richard M. Haney, M.Ed., Ph.D. (Counselling and Mediation). Richard has been practising Wholistic Counselling, Coaching, Hypnotherapy and Mediation for the past 25 years in Ottawa. Richard: (613) 234-5678. E-mail: richard@ottawacounselling.com

CO-CREATE THE GOWN OF YOUR DREAMS!

23 February 2017 - 7:42pm

 Wedding, handfasting, commitment ceremony attire for all – bring your ideas to life for your special day. Tracey at 613-241-3397 or email tracey@tav-creations.com. Online portfolio: www.tav-creations.com

BELLY DANCING FOR FUN!

23 February 2017 - 7:39pm

 Awaken your own Goddess of Dance. Tracey @ 613-241-3397 or www.bellydancingforfun.com

It’s All In The Learning

22 February 2017 - 11:06pm

Sherry Harris, MSW, RSW, OM, psycho-spiritual counsellor, coach, teacher, healer

Probably one of our hardest lessons is learning to be grateful for what shows up in our lives regardless of how comfortable it is for us. I repeated say “thank-you Creator”, everyday, all the time as I think it is the most powerful prayer there is. I say thank-you for the everyday blessings like waking up in the morning, breathing, sensing, knowing and also thank-you for the challenges I encounter as well. When the obstacles arrive as they will, I repeatedly say to my Self, my Higher Self– thank-you for the learning- then go within and ask for guidance and understanding around the issue. If I quietly ask Higher Self the learning will always be presented. I have to be open to it coming in ways I might not expect and in the timing I might not want. Of course, I want the learning immediately so that I may move forward free of the issue. It seldom works that way.

Divine Intelligence, Source, God, All That Is, loves us beyond measure and is always finding ways to move us forward in our spiritual awakening. It is important to remember that you are never a victim, not for one second. No matter how horrific the circumstances are, you choose them in between incarnations that you might understand them, learn from them and grow from them. In this process we move forward being wiser, more loving and compassionate and more aware of the Divine in our lives. Granted,  this being able to be grateful for tough lessons is not easy and it does not come overnight. But when you are able to live your life knowing that you and your Higher Self created all these opportunities for you to grow from, it makes it a little easier to cope when they arrive– as they will for all of us. We did not come in to suffer and struggle despite the way it feels sometimes. We came into incarnation on Earth to be in a physical body with emotions and thoughts so that we could master these and grow. We came in to learn about love and to have a joyful time here.

The easiest way to grow is to say thank-you God/ Source for the learning and then take the quiet time to ask for guidance and understanding. Letting go of the anger, bitterness and resentment we create when we do not like what comes our way is the fastest way to heal. Add gratitude and commitment to grow spiritually and you are well on your way to a much more peaceful life.

Sherry Harris, 2belight1@gmail.com

www.sherryharriscounselling.org, 613-236-8852

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Cycling for Holistic Health

22 February 2017 - 9:16pm

Sebastien Lemay is an owner of Spin City and he is our cycling interview for this issue.

203 Bank Street, Ottawa ON, 613-789-7746

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Can you tell me what is the purpose of spirituality in cycling and do you have any experience with it?

I think everyone has their own experience of spirituality like me. When you did my class, I think I am a little bit more spiritual than everyone else. I like to talk to people, I like to be grounded, stuff like that. So I think, yes.

Do you feel you are grounded?

I think so, yes. Spiritually grounded? Yes, I think so. Oh ok, that’s interesting. Yes, in my own life, I think I am spiritual. Ok so that is good.

So you are a spiritual cyclist? You are having a spiritual experience on the bike? Yes, I would like to say so. Yes, I think so. With the breathing, it is a little bit spiritual. Definitely, if you don’t have that sense of spiritual reality on the bike, I think you won’t have as much fun.

It sounds like it’s a love relationship. Yes. You are in love with it? Yes, like when people go fishing, people love to fish because they relax and they don’t think about anything while they are fishing.

They are in the moment. They are in the moment. They solve all their problems. Everything goes away during that time. When I go on the bike, any type of bike, I don’t think of my problems. I just think about the moment and I relax. I think this is where I meet a bit of spirituality.

Sounds like you are unified. Yes, this is something I like so much to do. Any type of cycling, spinning, outdoor and everything that when I do it, I completely get lost in it and relax.

So you are really yourself? Oh for sure. I can see I’m not the only one because when I teach and I see the other riders, it’s just like they are all fishing together. You know, they are all thinking of the moment and their stress goes away and they all relax. I think this would be the proper way to say that I am spiritual like this.  This is an interesting idea, well it‘s important.  Thank you.

Sonja Muller,

Thank you for reading

The Greatest Love

22 February 2017 - 11:20am

The Greatest Love is the love of Divine and Tao. It is love without condition. Like “agape,” it represents the highest form of love, as in the love of God for man, or even of man for God.

Love is the most powerful force in existence. Love is the reason for all creation. It is the reason for all existence. The virtue of love is far beyond what the human imagination can grasp. Love heals, transforms, strengthens, and allows us to go beyond our limitations to achieve true happiness and abundance in every aspect of life. This is the true nature and power of the greatest love.

Everyone wants and needs love. How could we even exist without it? But we have gone far from Divine and Tao, and we may need to let go of a lot to embody, offer and receive the Greatest Love.

Greatest Love has no agenda except to give of itself, to shine, serve and bless. It has no attachments, expectations, or needs. It simply expresses itself. It’s more than a feeling. It is one of our greatest healing tools. In fact, in Soul Mind Body Medicine by Dr. and Master Zhi Gang Sha, he writes, “Love is not just a concept. It’s a technique; a practical tool for healing.”

Master Sha’s teaching that love melts all blockages and transforms all life makes it easy to understand how the Greatest Love is the first Divine and Tao quality for us to develop.

When you feel love from your parents, your colleagues, your partner, your children or your spiritual mothers and fathers, you are moved and touched.

The sun, the moon, the stars, Mother Earth and Heaven are giving unconditional love in every moment.

Tao has created everything and in every moment, Tao is giving unconditional love.

If you offer unconditional love to others you could receive unlimited blessings for health, relationships, financial abundance, and success in all aspects of life.

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TALKING WORKS

21 February 2017 - 1:29pm

People often ask me what I’ve learned in almost 38 years of working as a separation and divorce mediator. I always answer this question very simply: Talking Works.

Unlike legal processes where the focus is on written court documents and couples often communicate only through their lawyers, family mediation encourages people to talk directly with each other. Couples learn to talk with, not at, each other. In contrast with the adversarial legal system that too often pits spouses against each other, conversations can help them connect. (The roots of the word “conversation” actually mean to turn together – con verser.) A mediator can help couples have a different kind of conversation, shifting them from angry, positional statements to a deeper exploration of their real interests. This often involves gently helping them explore their real needs, concerns, hopes and fears in order that they may arrive at a settlement that is wise, stable, and fair to everyone.

When people are involved in deep conversation, they start to talk from the heart. They move away from the legal mode of interaction, with its emphasis on “the head,” on logical arguments and legal precedents. They start to talk about what really matters.

It’s hard to have these kinds of conversations. But fair, wise and stable solutions come only when the heart is engaged. It takes courage to speak from the heart. (The word “courage,” in fact, comes from the old French word for heart.) In my experience, most couples are longing to have these kinds of conversations with each other. They just don’t know how, and they are afraid. Mediation can help them talk the way they really want to with each other.

When people are having real conversations from the heart, they are telling stories. They aren’t preparing court briefs or sending legal letters to each other. Rather, they are talking in their natural, human voices about what matters to them most. They use their own words, not some unnatural “legalese.” Their language is open, honest, direct, funny and often shocking. Conversations are the sound of life. Like life, they are often unpredictable and messy. Mediation can help couples move through the messy phase and start to work on solving the practical problems arising from their separation.

Unfortunately, the law doesn’t allow couples to tell their stories. When people say they want their “day in court” what they are really saying is “I need to tell my story to someone who will listen and understand how angry I am at you.” Inevitably, they are disappointed when the legal system doesn’t give them what they want and need.

When couples talk in a real way from the heart, they become hopeful. Hopeful that their partner can change, that their situation can evolve, that their future can be different. By learning that they have control over their settlement, they begin to feel that they have more control over their future. The idea of working together, not necessarily as friends, but as co-operative parents, begins to seem possible. Family mediation is therefore a hopeful process.

It all starts with talking.

Evita Roche was Canada’s first full-time lawyer-mediator. Since 1979, she has helped over 5,000 couples mediate the issues arising from their separation. In the 1990’s Evita was a Professor of family law and mediation at the University of Ottawa law school, where she received the first Excellence in Teaching Award. Her private practice is restricted to separation and divorce mediation, and she frequently delivers seminars on subjects related to family law.

Skin Treatments for Spring Detox

21 February 2017 - 1:12pm

A detox can be as involved as a dietary fast or as simple as a facial steam. There is a wealth of herbs, essential oils and other natural ingredients that can help you cleanse from the outside in! Facial steams are wonderful for deep cleaning pores and even clearing congested lungs. It also brings moisture to the skin and stimulates the blood flow due to the heat. Facial steams can also be personalized to a specific skin type. To create a steam treatment, add boiling water (approx 2 litres) to a plastic or glass bowl. Using spring or distilled water is preferable to tap water, which contains chlorine and other chemicals which you do not want on your skin. Add the herbal/essential oil blend (suggestions below) to the water and create a tent with a large towel so trap the steam. Keep your face about a foot away from the water and relax during the five to ten minutes of the treatment. People with thread veins should be careful with steaming, as should those with any skin issue that could be worsened with this treatment.

Oily skin types would benefit from sage, rosemary, peppermint, lemongrass, lavender and yarrow. Essential oils like cypress, patchouli, carrot seed, may chang and oils distilled form the herbs described above would also be useful in a steam.

Dry skin herbs would include lavender, chamomile (unless there is a ragweed sensitivity), violet, calendula and rose. The essential oils of these plants would also be useful, as well as palmarosa, frankincense, carrot seed and geranium (to name but a few).

Normal and combinations skin types can steam with lavender, rose, peppermint, clary sage or chamomile. You could also include geranium, palmarosa, lavender or lemon. This list is by no means inclusive: just a few to get you started.

Facial scrubs are another way to revitalize the skin. Not only do you slough off dead skin cells, but you also stimulate the underlying tissue and blood flow to the skin, helping tone and flush out toxins. You can use any of the herb combinations above and mix with poppy seeds or other spherical exfoliant. Moisten with water, yogurt,honey, avocado or other fruits and gently, in a circular motion, massage the skin. If you are doing a body scrub, always start from the extremities and work towards the torso where they organs of elimination are located. This helps the lymph move toxins out of the body as well. You can also make a mask by adding clay. This deep cleans the pores, can improve colour and skin texture and remove dead skin cells. My favourite mask is clay and honey. Honey is a natural humectant, bringing moisture to the skin. It is also very antibacterial. Green clay can be used for acneic skin, pink for normal/combination and ivory for sensitive or dry skin. Leave the mask on for 15-20 minutes, then gently rinse and pat dry. You may need to moisturize afterwards, especially if you don’t use honey.

Of course, this is just the tip of the iceberg where natural ingredients are concerned. But it is a good place to start, and you may have many of the ingredients in your kitchen cupboard already!

©2017 Heather Garrod is a Certified Aromatherapist and owner of Planet Botanix at 301 Bank St in Centretown. The store also contains a wellness clinic and workshop where she leads DIY bodycare courses monthly. 613.567.4444   

www.planetbotanix.com

Heartlight Therapies

19 February 2017 - 2:40pm

Offers Reiki and IET Sessions, Soul Support Sessions and Certification Classes in Reiki and IET.  Christine supports and gently guides Lightworkers in shifting from the head to the heart, so they can embrace their soul’s purpose and action it with clarity and confidence.  You have unique gifts and a purpose in serving others and helping raise the vibration and consciousness on this planet.   Her mission is to support you in YOUR mission! www.heartlight-therapies.com to book, contact and for more information.

Low Back Pain and Acupuncture

16 February 2017 - 5:48pm

By Steve Ryu, R.TCMP, R.Ac

Back pain is among the most prevalent health complaints of mankind. There are variable reasons to cause low back pain. Soft tissue injuries, sprains and strains, disc problems, and other causes could all be the cause of back pain. These problems mostly do not occur by accident, but rather gradually develop through cumulative degenerative processes. It is important to understand what really cause back pain in order to treat the problem.

Back pains appear through any feeling of an ache anywhere in the back. Modern research work has shown that pregnancy, depression, obesity, smoking as well as performing strenuous physical activities predispose one to back pains. They may be mild and severe but in most cases they do clear within a short time.

In Traditional Chinese Medicine, all the pains are resulted from blockage of free flow of Qi.

Qi can be described as energy, material force, electromagnetic current, matter, ether, vital force, or life force. Qi travels throughout our entire body in channels or meridians reaching every aspect of our body. Then how does the free flow of Qi and blood in the body become impeded, so as to cause pain?

1. An external invasion of wind, cold, dampness, or heat may invade the lower back region causing pain. If our defensive Qi or immune system is weak we become more susceptible to external invasions.

2. The Qi and blood can stagnate due to trauma (i.e. lifting, repetitive strain over time, an accident or similar sprain).

3. There may be an insufficiency of Qi or blood creating a sluggishness or stagnation of flow throughout the channel(s). This is an internal cause or weakness with a number of possible etiologies such as poor diet, insufficient rest coupled with too much activity or overwork (i.e. busy lives, excessive sex), overuse of drugs, chronic illness, heredity weakness, an excess of the emotions fear and anxiety, and general aging as our Qi is naturally declining.

In my opinion, emotional stress is less known cause of back pain but impacts a lot. Prolonged emotional stress creates a sympathetic dominant state in the autonomic nervous system and leads to decreased blood flow to most of the organs, muscles and peripheral tissues. When blood flow to the lumbar muscles is decreased, the muscles become tight, lose flexibility, and are easily fatigued.

Therefore my treatment approach addresses all aspects of back problems both biomechanical and psycho-emotional using acupuncture, massage, cupping, TDP lamp, herbal medicine, consultation for proper diet, exercise, and stress management.

PATHWORK: Only Wholeheartedness Can Bring True Fulfillment

16 February 2017 - 12:30pm

by Natalie Morisset

You may have noticed that certain areas of your life seem to flow fairly smoothly without too much effort, while others are fraught with difficulty and frustration despite your best efforts. Have you ever wondered why that is?

According to Pathwork Lecture 196, “Commitment — Cause and Effect”, there is a direct relationship between, on one hand, our level of happiness and satisfaction in a given area of our life, and on the other hand, the degree of wholeheartedness we put into committing to that area. Our life circumstances and our inner state are the truest gauge of whether or not something within us is amiss.

What is meant by ‘wholehearted commitment’? It’s not about trying hard; it’s about being fully aligned with positive intentionality. We all harbour deep within us some degree of negative intent, which prevents us from wholeheartedly committing ourselves in certain areas of our lives. We may effort greatly in these areas, but if our heart isn’t fully committed, the results will be mixed at best.

How can we remedy this? When we notice an area of our life with which we feel unsatisfied, no matter how mundane, we can look deep within ourselves to unearth our intentionality in this area, listening for the voice that says in some way “I do not want to give to this part of my life.” Once we hear that voice, it is essential to link this cause — our negative intent — with its effects, which create a powerful vicious circle in our life. By developing awareness and understanding of all these elements, we will foster positive intentionality within ourselves, and our level of peace and fulfillment will grow proportionately.

At the next monthly Pathwork Open Lecture on Wednesday February 8, we will explore this topic in greater detail, and we will have the opportunity to practice applying the steps outlined above to our lives.

When: Wednesday, February 8, 2017

7 to 9 pm

Where: Saint Paul University

233 Main Street

(follow the signs to the room). 

All are welcome.

There is a suggested donation of

$5 for members; $15 for non-members.

The Pathwork Lectures are available for free download from www.pathwork.org. For more information, contact Jean: jmillar21@gmail.com or 613-829-1254. Natalie Morisset is an Integral Professional Coach™ in Ottawa.

HERBAL MASSAGE

14 February 2017 - 3:28pm

Lætitia Béguin RMT, ND, herbologist. Pain, nervous system, skin disorder. 39 Dalhousie, Aylmer
www.herbesspa.ca  (819) 332-4048

Never Be Wrong

14 February 2017 - 2:27pm

Written by Alexis Nicol

Growing up I was made to feel embarrassed, guilty and ashamed if didn’t do something perfectly or I was wrong about something.  Through this I learned to keep myself small; afraid to admit being wrong and everyone else’s opinions were superior to mine.  I would go to great pains to avoid doing things that might bring on the humiliation unwittingly aimed directly at lessening me as a person.  I rejected my own inner guidance.

By believing the false statements made by my elders and peers, I too have been guilty of passing this “perfection” nonsense onto my children.  Who really knows or makes these rules of perfection – is it people that “think” they can do no wrong?  I don’t know.  What I do know is that this fear deprived me from experiencing so much that life has to offer just so I could avoid embarrassment or being hurt.  Thankfully, I have come to realize that it’s actually all right to be wrong.  It’s an opportunity for humility and forgiveness, it’s healthy and it’s a way for us to grow.    

Admitting that I have been wrong about something is not the end of the world and if someone tries to make me feel guilty after I have had the courage to admit it then I will remind myself that it’s their perception and at least I tried.

I hope the fear of being wrong doesn’t prevent you from getting out there and experiencing life’s many opportunities.  It’s not important if things don’t turn out the way you or anyone else thought it should.  Whatever happens, IT (God, Creator, Life) is steering us to go beyond our preconceived ideas and traditional beliefs.  Our “mistakes” are our gifts from the Universe guiding us toward living a more vibrant, diverse and fulfilled life.

Remember to use compassion when someone is courageous enough to admit they’ve been wrong.

Alexis believes in a Wholistic approach to healing mind, body and soul.  She combines Reiki, Reflexology, Reconnective Healing®, the Reconnection® and A Course In Miracles in her practice. www.firstlighthealing.com   613-263-7925

Three Feet from Gold

14 February 2017 - 2:23pm

By Daniel Roy CD, BA, MA, CFP, EPC, CIM, FCSI, CIWM, CRC

How many people do you know who have, by the end of January, already broken some or all their New Year’s resolutions?  They signed up for memberships to the gym only to gradually stop attending as “life” gets in the way.   They start “dieting” only to find that their old patterns of behaviour are taking over their lives and, once again, their weight loss program is over.    

Knowing that my “will power” is limited, I have come to the realization that I needed to develop other ways to keep myself focused on the goals that I have set for myself.  Before I even start this process, I now use these two very powerful questions:

Why do I want to do this?  Why is this goal important to me Now?

Why am I trying to lose weight?  Is it for me, is it to please my spouse?  Is it to improve my overall health?

I have found that when I have 100% clarity on the reason(s) for my actions I will have a far greater chance of success in attaining my goals, that is, not abandoning midway through the process.  A resolution made during a moment of intoxication or despair is doomed to failure.  That is because there is no meaningful reason(s) that is motivating you into action.  It’s an empty promise to yourself.

First and foremost, get clarity on the Why for your action(s).  Then set realistic benchmarks for the attainment of your goal and reward yourself as you reach the milestones along the way.  Making this journey a pleasant experience will greatly increase your chance of success.  It will also reduce the possibility of you abandoning your quest three feet from gold.

Daniel Roy is the principal instructor of the Ottawa-based Praxis Wealth Institute.  He is a Certified Retirement Coach, Certified Financial Planner as well as public speaker.  He is the author of “The Essential Guide to Retirement Readiness”.  He conducts workshops and courses on the subject of winning the game of wealth creation.

daniel@praxiswealthinstitute.ca

www.praxiswealthinstitute.ca

www.yourretirementcoach.ca

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